Blaming Quotes

“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality. What's sadder is when they are Christian.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When the person you love can't see your love for them beneath the painful things you say when they reject you, remember this: Love is blind.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“An important decision I made was to resist playing the Blame Game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matters.”
― Steve Goodier

“Mr. Vey, you cannot be stuffed into a locker without your consent." Dallstrom said, which may be the dumbest thing ever said in a school. "You should have resisted. That's like blaming someone who was struck by lightning for getting in the way.”
― Richard Paul Evans, The Prisoner of Cell 25

“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.”
― Ancient China Knowledge, The 36 Stratagems in Ancient China War: 三十六计

“Hypercritical, Shaming Parents
Hypercritical and shaming parents send the same message to their children as perfectionistic parents do - that they are never good enough. Parents often deliberately shame their children into minding them without realizing the disruptive impact shame can have on a child's sense of self. Statements such as "You should be ashamed of yourself" or "Shame on you" are obvious examples. Yet these types of overtly shaming statements are actually easier for the child to defend against than are more subtle forms of shaming, such as contempt, humiliation, and public shaming.
There are many ways that parents shame their children. These include belittling, blaming, contempt, humiliation, and disabling expectations.
-BELITTLING. Comments such as "You're too old to want to be held" or "You're just a cry-baby" are horribly humiliating to a child. When a parent makes a negative comparison between his or her child and another, such as "Why can't you act like Jenny? See how she sits quietly while her mother is talking," it is not only humiliating but teaches a child to always compare himself or herself with peers and find himself or herself deficient by comparison.
-BLAMING. When a child makes a mistake, such as breaking a vase while rough-housing, he or she needs to take responsibility. But many parents go way beyond teaching a lesson by blaming and berating the child: "You stupid idiot! Do you think money grows on trees? I don't have money to buy new vases!" The only thing this accomplishes is shaming the child to such an extent that he or she cannot find a way to walk away from the situation with his or her head held high.
-CONTEMPT. Expressions of disgust or contempt communicate absolute rejection. The look of contempt (often a sneer or a raised upper lip), especially from someone who is significant to a child, can make him or her feel disgusting or offensive. When I was a child, my mother had an extremely negative attitude toward me. Much of the time she either looked at me with the kind of expectant expression that said, "What are you up to now?" or with a look of disapproval or disgust over what I had already done. These looks were extremely shaming to me, causing me to feel that there was something terribly wrong with me.
-HUMILIATION. There are many ways a parent can humiliate a child, such as making him or her wear clothes that have become dirty. But as Gershen Kaufman stated in his book Shame: The Power of Caring, "There is no more humiliating experience than to have another person who is clearly the stronger and more powerful take advantage of that power and give us a beating." I can personally attest to this. In addition to shaming me with her contemptuous looks, my mother often punished me by hitting me with the branch of a tree, and she often did this outside, in front of the neighbors. The humiliation I felt was like a deep wound to my soul.
-DISABLING EXPECTATIONS. Parents who have an inordinate need to have their child excel at a particular activity or skill are likely to behave in ways that pressure the child to do more and more. According to Kaufman, when a child becomes aware of the real possibility of failing to meet parental expectations, he or she often experiences a binding self-consciousness. This self-consciousness - the painful watching of oneself - is very disabling. When something is expected of us in this way, attaining the goal is made harder, if not impossible.
Yet another way that parents induce shame in their children is by communicating to them that they are a disappointment to them. Such messages as "I can't believe you could do such a thing" or "I am deeply disappointed in you" accompanied by a disapproving tone of voice and facial expression can crush a child's spirit.”
― Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself

“See it for what it is and own it, rather than rethink it so you don't have to deal with the trauma of the abuse. This is the only way to move on--through acceptance.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When an accusation is thrown at you that does not fit you, when it doesn’t capture what you know to be true about yourself or your behavior, mentally flip it back on your partner. He is likely accusing you of what he is doing or feeling. Accusations can be about the narcissist’s own vulnerabilities and weaknesses (accusing you of being overly ambitious when he is ambitious, criticizing you for being unsuccessful or not making enough money when he is not feeling successful in that space)”
― Ramani Durvasula, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

“You can turn every ugly and damaging drama into a genuine blessing by seeing it differently. No one is suffering on purpose. We learn to give up the pleasure we feel in self-righteously blaming others. Healing happens when we see things differently. The question is: do you want suffering or peace? It's that simple.”
― Donna Goddard, Waldmeer

“People only hate the same things they do to others , When it is done to them.”
― De philosopher DJ Kyos

“Attempting to justify a lie is something akin to poking a really big hornet’s nest with a really short stick. The distance between you and disaster isn’t any longer than the stick or the wisdom that you exercised in choosing it.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Before being upset with someone, do first some background checks on them, sometimes people wounded in other battles may find you a handy scapegoat.”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana, Pearls Of Eternity

“Some excuses are like blaming one’s stutter on winter.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“Pointing the finger is often the way that we say that it wasn’t us, when the stuff that we’re holding with the other four fingers says something quite different.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“If only he just this once let me be upset instead of always trying to fix things, no one would be blaming me for what happened. I wouldn't be blaming me.”
― Dustin Thao, You've Reached Sam

“Narcissists are chronic blamers, deflecting responsibility and casting themselves as perpetual victims. In their preferred arena, the courtroom, they wield pointed accusations and manipulate the system as a weapon in their ongoing battle against their victims.”
― Tracy Malone

“In the first stance, you are blaming for corruption and abusing the leaders as the power-mongers, dictators, and disloyal; whereas, on the other way, you negotiate with them, rather than bringing them to justice. It means you are the same class figure to mislead and misuse the simple and inexperienced people.”
― Ehsan Sehgal

“The greatest part of a lie is the lie that it’s somehow worth telling.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“We are somehow led to believe that the justification of what we’re ‘sowing’ has the power to change the nature of what we’re sowing. Subsequently, we find ourselves shocked that the justifications didn’t change the nature of what we ‘reaped.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Blaming is an escape from the fact; conversely, proving is the proof of reality.”
― Ehsan Sehgal

“Vera did not reply. He had called her careless, was blaming her, passing judgment and in this he was no different to all other men: they had their way with women, but God forbid the woman they wanted to marry should be sullied. Even one who had been trapped...”
― Barbara Townsend, Out of mind

“Survivors become adept at maneuvering around the concealed triggers of narcissistic abuse. A narcissist frequently blames the victim for pressing an undefined 'button' to provoke their fits of anger, rendering navigation through this turbulent terrain virtually impossible.”
― Tracy Malone

“There is nothing more vicious than unfairly placing blame on innocent individuals without any evidence.”
― Baseer Ahmad Karizada, The Treasure Map of Pirate's Cove

“Blaming your parents for their obvious mistakes does not just hinder your ability to honor them where honor is due. Blaming them allows you to avoid the question “What could I have done differently? What SHOULD I have done differently?”
― Gregory B Grindstead - The Hidden Promise, Honoring Your Parents

“You know, "freedom of expression also comes with responsibilities, such as respecting the rights and beliefs of others.”
― Dipti Dhakul

“Blaming others will never make you or your situation any better.”
― Garima Soni - words world