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“Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU.”
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“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
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“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”
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“We despise and abhor the bully, the brawler, the oppressor, whether in private or public life, but we despise no less the coward and the voluptuary. No man is worth calling a man who will not fight rather than submit to infamy or see those that are dear to him suffer wrong.”
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“I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence.”
― The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
― The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
“Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it.”
― Malcolm X Speaks: Selected Speeches and Statements
― Malcolm X Speaks: Selected Speeches and Statements
“A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
IV: You have the right to change your mind.
V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.
VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY”
― When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy
I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
IV: You have the right to change your mind.
V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.
VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY”
― When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy
“If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.”
― The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself
― The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself
“If someone is inconsiderate or rude to you, risk telling them how it made you feel or that you didn’t appreciate being treated that way. If you tend to talk yourself out of anger by telling yourself that you don’t want to make waves, try telling yourself instead that it is okay to make waves sometimes and risk letting people know how you really feel.”
― The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself
― The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself
“The opposite of self-assertiveness is self-abnegation--abandoning or submerging your personal values, judgment, and interests. Some people tell themselves this is a virtue. It is a "virtue" that corrodes self-esteem.”
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“It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, "It's easy for her, she has good self-esteem." One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do so. There are always times when self-assertiveness requires courage, no matter how high your self-esteem.”
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“So many people live their lives not knowing the real and exact reasons why they live. They follow anything for something and they do something for anything. When you live life with a blurry vision, you live a blurry life. Vision is life, and a life without vision is a dead life”
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“It is extremely important to be able to make negative assertions. We must be able to say what is ‘not me’ in order to have a ‘me’. What we like has no meaning unless we know what we don’t like. Our yes has no meaning if we never say no. My chosen profession has no passion if ‘just anyone would do’. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing we disagree with.”
― Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future
― Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future
“In order for us to practice self-control, we must have a goal. We must have something we are saying “yes” to, which necessarily comes with things that we must say “no” to. We use self-control to maneuver ourselves toward this “yes.” This goal must be entirely our own. The minute another person is choosing and managing our goals for us, we have left self-control behind.”
― Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries
― Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries
“Giving reasons during conflict to justify or defend a viewpoint is just as manipulative as giving reasons to attack that viewpoint. Neither of these routes is an honest assertive I want that can lead to a workable compromise of interests to quickly resolve the conflict.”
― When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy
― When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy
“All the backpedaling and backstepping that goes on with powerful women today, with Hillary Clinton saying she could have stayed home and baked cookies and blah blah blah, and then offending everybody so that she had to say that she does, in fact, *love* to make cookies, loves it almost as much as she likes to trade agricultural futures. I mean, what is that about? All this I'm really a lady, I'm really a nice girl crap- who needs it? It really is nothing more than surrender.”
― Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women
― Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women
“Yet there’s no one to beat you | No one t’ defeat you | ’Cept the thoughts of yourself feeling bad”
― The Lyrics: 1961-2012
― The Lyrics: 1961-2012
“If you want to be exclusive with someone and he gives you the runaround, honor your intentions and walk away (unless your goal isn't to be with the guy but rather to write a song, screenplay, or book. If that's it--you're on the right track). Continue searching for a man who wants what you want.”
― Loves Me...Not: How to Survive (and Thrive!) in the Face of Unrequited Love
― Loves Me...Not: How to Survive (and Thrive!) in the Face of Unrequited Love
“The Wretched Rulers of Freiland by Stewart Stafford
A two-faced mirror, vainly warm,
A beauteous sheen to a swinish form,
Bloated with gold and wanton pride,
As cormorants in cuckoo nests, they hide.
They gorge on fabrication, binge on strife,
Parasites living off another life,
Suckers draining every dream,
Like leeches in a poisoned stream.
Shells crack, the rotten egg cabal;
The bonfire of inanities banal,
Power loosened in a fading grip,
Fleeing the wake of freedom's ship.
© Stewart Stafford, 2023. All rights reserved.”
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A two-faced mirror, vainly warm,
A beauteous sheen to a swinish form,
Bloated with gold and wanton pride,
As cormorants in cuckoo nests, they hide.
They gorge on fabrication, binge on strife,
Parasites living off another life,
Suckers draining every dream,
Like leeches in a poisoned stream.
Shells crack, the rotten egg cabal;
The bonfire of inanities banal,
Power loosened in a fading grip,
Fleeing the wake of freedom's ship.
© Stewart Stafford, 2023. All rights reserved.”
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“Imagine how different the world would be if little girls were taught to set boundaries as often as they were taught to be polite.”
― Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power
― Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power
“This healing isn’t a one-time event; it is a process of rededicating ourselves to ourselves, over and over again. Every time we redirect our attention back to our feelings, our desires, and our dreams, we are healing. Every time we soothe ourselves through our guilt instead of reacting to it, we are healing. Every time we use our voice where we would have once stayed silent, we are healing.”
― Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power
― Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power
“To think, to judge, to choose our values is to be individuated, to create a distinct, personal identity. But thus to affirm that I exist is to open myself to the realization that I am finite, that my life is limited, that I am mortal, that one day I will die. The rebellion against the inevitability of death results in a rebellion against the challenges and opportunities of life. If I refuse to fully live, I cannot die.
So: fear of autonomy entails fear of self-responsibility entails fear of identity entails fear of aloneness entails fear of death.
That which does not exist cannot perish.”
― Honoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformation
So: fear of autonomy entails fear of self-responsibility entails fear of identity entails fear of aloneness entails fear of death.
That which does not exist cannot perish.”
― Honoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformation
“I should like some coffee,' she announced, with what she hoped was Nietschean directness. 'No, on second thoughts, I should like some tea. I should like a very strong pot of tea.”
― Hotel du Lac
― Hotel du Lac
“I felt I had the right to not be a trustworthy person. It was good to make that clear, even if it worked against my professional future; from now on you should be aware that assigning me a job includes the possibility that I’ll quit halfway through. That was more or less how I put it. It was the closest I would come in this business to an outburst of dignity.”
― La encomienda
― La encomienda
“The ideals of manliness found in these places in the Mediterranean seem to have three moral imperatives: first, impregnating one's wife; second, provisioning dependents; third, protecting the family. These criteria demand assertiveness and resolve. All must be performed relentlessly in the loyal service of the "collective identities" of the self.”
― Manhood in the Making: Cultural Concepts of Masculinity
― Manhood in the Making: Cultural Concepts of Masculinity
“You will find that you are never nervous when you are trying to help someone else feel comfortable. William G. Alston”
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
“Do not seek to fit in. Seek to excel. William G. Alston”
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
“Do not seek approval. Seek improvement. William G. Alston”
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
― Four Keys to the Natural Anabolic State: The Pathway to Health, Fitness, Faith, and a Huge Competitive Edge
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